Last night you proposed to your girlfriend with the engagement ring of her dreams, and she said yes. You popped a bottle of champagne, hugged, kissed, talked about wedding plans, popped another bottle, and went to bed dreaming of the big day. The morning after, what’s the first thing you want to do (after taking a few aspirin for that hangover)?
If you’re like most people, you can’t wait to share the good news with your friends, family, strangers, the mailman, the customer service rep at your cable company, and pretty much everyone else. However, there are some general dos and don’ts you should keep in mind after you propose, including who you tell about the engagement (and how you tell them!). Follow Lavalier’s list of post-proposal dos and don’ts to make sure you’ve taken care of everything and haven’t left anyone out in the cold.
DON’T announce the engagement on social media – at least not right away. While it may be tempting to post a selfie the moment she says ‘yes,’ part of the excitement of an engagement is reliving the moment through the reactions of your friends and family each time you tell your story. If you blab to the whole world at once, you’ll get a lot of likes and congratulatory comments, but you’ll ultimately deprive yourself of the fun of being able to share your story in person.
DO tell your parents first. Your parents do not want to find out that their little boy or girl is getting married via a Facebook notification, tweet, or even worse, from a neighbor or friend who heard about it from someone else. You probably told your parents about your plan to propose, and they’re anxious to hear how it went. And when you do share the happy news, call them or tell them in person. Don’t send an e-mail or text.
DON’T steal your fiancée’s thunder. Let her choose when and how she shares pictures of the engagement ring, if she decides to share them at all. There’s plenty of controversy out there over whether or not posting photos of the ring is ‘tacky’ (just take a look at some of the comments on this TheKnot.com article!), but we think there’s nothing wrong with it, as long as you’re both comfortable. Who doesn’t like to look at pics of a friend’s engagement ring?
DO make sure you’ve purchased engagement ring insurance through Lavalier. Your new fiancée isn’t used to wearing a ring on her finger 24/7, and the fit might need to be adjusted. She may slip it off to let a friend try it on, or it could be lost, misplaced, knocked down a drain, or just vanish during those first few weeks while she’s adjusting to her new favorite accessory. Lavalier’s engagement ring insurance covers you in any of these scenarios.
DON’T talk about the cost or carat size. Keep a sense of romance and mystery for your fiancée. Discussing it with anyone else just comes across as gauche. Whether you’re bragging about how much you spent or you’re bragging about what a great deal you got, it’s still bragging. Plus, no woman wants to think of her engagement ring as ‘a really good bargain’ (even if it was). And nothing good can come from mentioning the carats – you’ll either look stingy or, again, like you’re bragging.
DO enjoy it! After months or years of being ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’, you’re finally affianced. You’ve got plenty of wedding planning, cake-tasting, invitation-writing, and venue-touring ahead of you. Stay calm, don’t try to plan it all at once, and bask in the well-wishes from your friends and family. Give yourself a few weeks before you start planning for the wedding to relish your new status as fiancés.
You’ll find plenty of advice out there on the Internet and in the hundreds of books about wedding planning, and your friends and family won’t shy away from offering their opinions. These are all good resources, but when it comes to handling wedding preparations after the proposal, you and your fiancée have the final word. Just relax, try to enjoy every moment, and don’t forget to keep reading Lavalier’s blog for advice!