Worry Free Weddings: The Bachelor Party
Your best buds, a round or two (or twelve, depending on how you roll), and a night that is, by design, meant to be remembered for a lifetime… a pretty rugged combination in any context. Throw in the fact that you’re (traditionally) celebrating your “last night of freedom”, and you just might wake up missing a tooth or with a boxer’s pet tiger in the bathroom of your hotel room. Stranger things have happened.
Your best man is responsible for orchestrating the shenanigans, but don’t feel you can’t throw your two cents in. This is about giving you the night of your life… until your wedding night, that is.
1. Don’t forget about your soon-to-be: Communicate. Have an open and honest dialogue with your fiancée about your bachelor party festivities. You may or may not know exactly what your best man has in store, but you can still be prepared for anything. The last thing you want to do is cause your bride any additional anxiety (she’s got enough going on with the planning of… everything else!). Every couple will have a different comfort level, so talk about each of your expectations. Will you touch base with each other while you’re out and about, or implement a “don’t ask, don’t tell” kind of policy? This will be a great exercise in communication, something you’ll be doing plenty of in your marriage.
2. What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas… Silence is golden. Whether you’re heading to a strip mall karaoke bar or the strip club, this is your night. Live it, savor it…and leave it at that. For everyone’s benefit you (and your wolfpack) should keep the specifics to yourselves. So keep the Tweeting, Facebooking, and Instagramming to a minimum.
3. Who: Who gets to come? Your closest friends and relatives, but not every male wedding attendee. Keep the group manageable both in size and personalities! If you’re like most guys, not everyone you invite will know everyone else. Give your best man a heads-up if you worry about anyone in the group not getting along. But don’t worry too hard; it’s your party, after all.
4. What/Where: What should you do? There’s always Vegas (of course). Or the other classic big city bachelor party destinations: New York, New Orleans, Montreal, etc. All offer up pretty much anything you might need to create an epic night.
Something to consider though: the budget of those attending. Some may already be coughing up the dough for plane tickets to get to the wedding… can they afford a destination bachelor party? You want everyone to have fun right along with you, and if they are stressing about money they might be a little resentful. Be considerate.
Not every groom will want an out of town experience, anyway. Some alternatives? Rent out a room in a whiskey bar, do something outdoors, like camping or skiing, have an indulgent dinner at the best place in town, followed by some dancing… you get the idea. Tell your best man what you have in mind or if there is anything specifically off limits.
5. When: So when should your shindig take place? The classic approach is just before the wedding. Just be careful if you aim for the night before your big day. You don’t want be nursing a wicked hangover the day you profess your love before all of your friends and relatives. Give yourself time to recover, and refocus. These days most guys treat the bachelor party as a weekend unto itself, weeks or even months before the wedding. Given all the energy (and stress) that can come with months of wedding planning, it’s not a bad idea to take a break in the middle… think of it like halftime, minus Bruno Mars.
6. How: We don’t mean to get all serious on you, but…SAFELY! Make sure no one is driving home drunk, and that anyone in from out of town has a way to get where they need to go. Rent a taxi, a limo or even a party bus. Whatever trouble you get into, no night of fun is worth irresponsible risks. Planning is everything!
7. Why: Because, like we said already, it’s your “last night of freedom”. But really: because you finally found her – the dream girl you’ve waited your whole life for. The one person who really understands you…
“If you’re a bird, I’m a bird.” – The Notebook
This is cause for celebration! And who better to kick up dirt with than those closest to you? Enjoy it!
Alan Garner: I want you to know, Doug, I’m a steel trap. Whatever happens tonight, I will never, ever, ever speak a word of it.
Doug Billings: Ok, I got it. Thank you. I don’t think that…
Alan Garner: Seriously, I don’t care what happens. I don’t care if we kill someone.
Doug Billings: What?
Alan Garner: You heard me. It’s Sin City. I won’t tell a soul.
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